Negotiation – Arcane Advice https://arcaneadvice.com Free BDSM Lessons from The Crow Academy Fri, 13 Feb 2026 21:40:05 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://arcaneadvice.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/10/cropped-ca_site-ident-32x32.png Negotiation – Arcane Advice https://arcaneadvice.com 32 32 What is a Mind F*ck or Mind Game in BDSM? https://arcaneadvice.com/all-lessons-a-z/what-is-a-mind-game-in-bdsm/ https://arcaneadvice.com/all-lessons-a-z/what-is-a-mind-game-in-bdsm/#respond Sat, 13 Jan 2024 21:07:25 +0000 https://arcaneadvice.com/?p=3032 A Mind F*ck or Mind Games are a type of BDSM Play that relies mainly on playing with the Psychological headspace of the Submissive, and requires the playfully sadistic actions and words of the Dominant. The game is still well within all stated Limits, and fundamentally remains within the SSC Read More »

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]]> https://arcaneadvice.com/all-lessons-a-z/what-is-a-mind-game-in-bdsm/feed/ 0 Dealing With Someone Who Has Dom-Disease https://arcaneadvice.com/all-lessons-a-z/dealing-with-someone-who-has-dom-disease/ https://arcaneadvice.com/all-lessons-a-z/dealing-with-someone-who-has-dom-disease/#respond Tue, 04 Jul 2023 01:40:11 +0000 https://arcaneadvice.com/?p=2850 In a previous lesson, “Dispelling Nonsense in the D/s Community,” I explained the problem known as “Dom-Disease.” In this lesson, I would like to share how I dealt with someone who had Dom-Disease as an example of how you can proceed if you ever encounter someone like this. If you Read More »

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]]> https://arcaneadvice.com/all-lessons-a-z/dealing-with-someone-who-has-dom-disease/feed/ 0 The Serenity of Gifting-Away Personal Sovereignty https://arcaneadvice.com/all-lessons-a-z/personalsovereignty/ https://arcaneadvice.com/all-lessons-a-z/personalsovereignty/#respond Fri, 16 Jun 2023 23:32:10 +0000 https://arcaneadvice.com/?p=2790 Yes, you read the title correctly and it says “Gifting,” not “Giving.” This is because Personal Sovereignty, the right to live your life as you want, and to do with your own body as you will, is everything in the modern world. For centuries, and even millennia, people have fought Read More »

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]]> https://arcaneadvice.com/all-lessons-a-z/personalsovereignty/feed/ 0 Topping from the Bottom: Why it’s Bad and When it’s Good https://arcaneadvice.com/all-lessons-a-z/topping-from-the-bottom-why-its-bad-and-when-its-good/ https://arcaneadvice.com/all-lessons-a-z/topping-from-the-bottom-why-its-bad-and-when-its-good/#respond Mon, 14 Nov 2022 02:57:33 +0000 https://arcaneadvice.com/?p=2637 Many have heard the term, “Topping from the Bottom.” A variety of definitions have arisen in regards to this fairly straight-forward concept, but not all the definitions agree on When, Where, and How this term becomes an accurate description of what is occurring. Most people perceive this idea as completely Read More »

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]]> https://arcaneadvice.com/all-lessons-a-z/topping-from-the-bottom-why-its-bad-and-when-its-good/feed/ 0 For New Dominants: “Are They a Submissive or a Slave?” https://arcaneadvice.com/all-lessons-a-z/are-they-a-submissive-or-a-slave/ https://arcaneadvice.com/all-lessons-a-z/are-they-a-submissive-or-a-slave/#comments Fri, 16 Sep 2022 00:56:52 +0000 https://arcaneadvice.com/?p=2561 A novice Dominant posted this question, which reflects what we at The Crow Academy see as a gross misunderstanding of the meaning of these terms on a very deep level. The question was posed as though there was some “magic indicator” that would let a new Dominant flawlessly know this Read More »

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]]> https://arcaneadvice.com/all-lessons-a-z/are-they-a-submissive-or-a-slave/feed/ 1 Why Basic D/s is The Best Foundation https://arcaneadvice.com/all-lessons-a-z/why-basic-d-s-is-the-best-foundation/ https://arcaneadvice.com/all-lessons-a-z/why-basic-d-s-is-the-best-foundation/#respond Wed, 04 May 2022 20:32:23 +0000 https://arcaneadvice.com/?p=2476 Today’s Lesson: Why straight-forward, down-to-earth D/s makes for the best foundation in all cases of the many D/s variants. We hear a lot about DD/lg, Pet Play, and Brat Play / Resistance Play relationships as some kind of Core Identity for that relationship, and yet these kinds of relationships near-constantly Read More »

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]]> https://arcaneadvice.com/all-lessons-a-z/why-basic-d-s-is-the-best-foundation/feed/ 0 The Monumental Importance of Honesty in BDSM https://arcaneadvice.com/all-lessons-a-z/the-monumental-importance-of-honesty-in-bdsm/ https://arcaneadvice.com/all-lessons-a-z/the-monumental-importance-of-honesty-in-bdsm/#comments Sun, 03 Oct 2021 22:02:32 +0000 https://arcaneadvice.com/?p=2404 We all know that COMMUNICATION is critical for a healthy and flourishing D/s Relationship. Amongst other things, this includes an Absolute PACT of Honesty. To be clear, Honesty does NOT include things that are genuinely unknown or “in-flux” such as a Soft Limit where one is unsure where they lay Read More »

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]]> https://arcaneadvice.com/all-lessons-a-z/the-monumental-importance-of-honesty-in-bdsm/feed/ 4 The Problematic Myth Of The “No Limits” Slave https://arcaneadvice.com/all-lessons-a-z/the-myth-of-the-no-limits-slave/ https://arcaneadvice.com/all-lessons-a-z/the-myth-of-the-no-limits-slave/#respond Fri, 13 Aug 2021 07:12:30 +0000 https://arcaneadvice.com/?p=2330 Origins & Realities To begin, lets discuss the origins of the modern (meaning last 50 years) “no limits slave” myth. Effectively, a variety of authors such as John Norman wrote fiction novels like the Gor series, wherein the submissives were described as having no limits… and also no rights… in Read More »

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]]> https://arcaneadvice.com/all-lessons-a-z/the-myth-of-the-no-limits-slave/feed/ 0 Polyamory is Not For Everyone… and That’s Fine https://arcaneadvice.com/all-lessons-a-z/polyamory-is-not-for-everyone-and-thats-fine/ https://arcaneadvice.com/all-lessons-a-z/polyamory-is-not-for-everyone-and-thats-fine/#comments Sat, 03 Jul 2021 05:16:00 +0000 https://arcaneadvice.com/?p=2238 In the last year I have read about more and more individuals who are being pushed into Polyamory when it is not in their nature. Let me make it clear that there is nothing wrong with Polyamory when BOTH people in a couple enjoy the idea. I have been in Read More »

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]]> https://arcaneadvice.com/all-lessons-a-z/polyamory-is-not-for-everyone-and-thats-fine/feed/ 1 What I Wish I Knew When I First Got Into BDSM – In 2 Parts https://arcaneadvice.com/all-lessons-a-z/what-i-wish-i-knew/ https://arcaneadvice.com/all-lessons-a-z/what-i-wish-i-knew/#comments Wed, 16 Sep 2020 08:12:08 +0000 https://arcaneadvice.com/?p=2017 Part 1: The Developing Dominant by Master Arcane

Part 2: The Searching Submissive by slave Daphne

I recently had an outside publisher ask me to write on the subject of “What do you wish you knew before becoming a Dominant, and why?” They also asked slave Daphne the same question as a Submissive.

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