Oftentimes a Master must consider what is the next course of study for his slave. A Fine Master will seek to design the next course such that his slave will feel uplifted by his instructions, guided by his hand, and have a clearly perceivable pathway to improve herself in some Read More »
Someone was asking, “What defines a Master, and how is that different from a Domme?” My answer clarified that the opposite of Master is not Domme, and provides some insight into the powerful, nearly mathematical dynamic that defines a Master in the greatest sense of the word. I also clarified Read More »
I recently replied to a question about when and how it’s ok to re-write one’s own Rules as a Dom/me. As I sincerely believe that we as Dom/mes are in fact ARTISTS, my answer is whole-heartedly in support of treating one’s own Rules as an ever-growing expression of oneself, one’s needs, Read More »
I recently responded to a question regarding the issue of Body Image in a slave. It was asked how do Dominants deal with the issue of a slave with an inaccurate Body Image, and what steps we as Doms would take to help her refine her Body Image into a Read More »
This 2-Part lesson came as a result of an online discussion on the very complicated topic of Self-Esteem, a factor which is critical within the ongoing training of a slave. The question is how does one approach the idea of cultivating healthy self-esteem in oneself (for subs) or in your Read More »
This is a question that I get every so often regarding the legality of a Master-slave, or D/s, Contract. For those of you who have never heard of such, the Master-slave Contract (aka Slave Contract, aka D/s Contract, etc) is an actual document created when a Dom and a sub Read More »
A woman wrote to me with a unique problem which seemed to revolve around a confusion between the appropriate behaviors of a BDSM party vs a Swinger party. From the description of her problem, the biggest issue appeared to be that she wanted to bring a high level of polyamory, Read More »
There seems to be some deliberation on the virtue of training an Experienced submissive versus a Complete Newbie submissive. In my opinion there is virtue in both scenarios and in this lesson I explain why. Following the main lesson, I have posted an excerpt from my book, “Igniting The Fire: Read More »
A submissive new to the idea of Living The BDSM D/s Lifestyle wrote to me asking how one “integrates” the various profound elements of Living The Dominant-Submissive Lifestyle alongside the ordinary demands of society, work and otherwise daily life. I describe what it is like by drawing parallels to living Read More »
A passionate submissive wrote me both hopeful and hesitant about pursuing the extreme surrender she hoped to experience within formal D/s and Submission. Her concerns stemmed from observations regarding styles of D/s that one might consider more extreme, and not understanding that different Dominants have different Stylistic Choices. She was Read More »
A gentleman wrote to me asking all about the meaning and significance of the Slave Collar. He felt that the giving of the slave collar was a notable, even sacred event yet he equally felt that he was hearing and seeing collars being given out lightly all around him. My Read More »
A devoted submissive wrote to me asking about a kind of burn-out that any submissive can experience when they feel like they just cannot do enough for their Dominant. My answer was far less straight-forward than you might expect since burn-out like this can come from any number of areas Read More »
A relatively new male Dom wrote me asking advice on how to keep an existing long-distance relationship going while adding his and his girlfriend’s newfound love of D/s into the picture. He explained how the roles of Dominant and submissive just sort of grew out of a natural, almost vanilla Read More »
A Dom-Dom couple (both people are Dominant; neither is submissive) wrote to me asking how and where they could find a submissive for the two of them to Co-Top. I wrote them back with advice on their exact question, as well as an extensive answer regarding THE BIG QUESTION that Read More »
A Dominant buddy of mine wrote to me asking how I thought he should handle ambient Jealousy from his Alpha sub despite the fact that he makes it clear to her that she is Number One in a polyamorous relationship where he trains more than one submissive…. I liked answering Read More »