When it comes to any sort of “Skill” involved in Domination & Submission, most people envision the Dominant as the one Requiring Skill, at the very least to be able to use BDSM Toys safely, to Guide, and to Teach the Submissive. But as we at The Crow Academy have Read More »
In our Facebook group, “BDSM Answers by The Crow Academy,” a fine gentleman asked “What is High Protocol Domination & Submission?” This was our reply, as The Crow Academy is very much a High-Protocol, High-Etiquette school of Romantic Domination & Submission. Enjoy. 🙂 (Interested in joining our Facebook Group? CLICK Read More »
In a previous lesson, “Dispelling Nonsense in the D/s Community,” I explained the problem known as “Dom-Disease.” In this lesson, I would like to share how I dealt with someone who had Dom-Disease as an example of how you can proceed if you ever encounter someone like this. If you Read More »
Yes, you read the title correctly and it says “Gifting,” not “Giving.” This is because Personal Sovereignty, the right to live your life as you want, and to do with your own body as you will, is everything in the modern world. For centuries, and even millennia, people have fought Read More »
Many have heard the term, “Topping from the Bottom.” A variety of definitions have arisen in regards to this fairly straight-forward concept, but not all the definitions agree on When, Where, and How this term becomes an accurate description of what is occurring. Most people perceive this idea as completely Read More »
A novice Dominant posted this question, which reflects what we at The Crow Academy see as a gross misunderstanding of the meaning of these terms on a very deep level. The question was posed as though there was some “magic indicator” that would let a new Dominant flawlessly know this Read More »
A new Dominant wrote to me asking, “How & Where Do I Start Creating Rules As A New Dominant?” At The Crow Academy we get this kind of question very often. Not surprising actually, as the world of BDSM is so vast and varied that for a newcomer it can Read More »
Today’s Lesson: Why straight-forward, down-to-earth D/s makes for the best foundation in all cases of the many D/s variants. We hear a lot about DD/lg, Pet Play, and Brat Play / Resistance Play relationships as some kind of Core Identity for that relationship, and yet these kinds of relationships near-constantly Read More »
Certainly “High Heel Training” is a very real element of many Styles of D/s. At The Crow Academy we have taught numerous submissives who ere unfamiliar with walking – and even dancing – in high heels how to do so with excellent results. Whether you are the Submissive who wants Read More »
We all know that COMMUNICATION is critical for a healthy and flourishing D/s Relationship. Amongst other things, this includes an Absolute PACT of Honesty. To be clear, Honesty does NOT include things that are genuinely unknown or “in-flux” such as a Soft Limit where one is unsure where they lay Read More »
Origins & Realities To begin, lets discuss the origins of the modern (meaning last 50 years) “no limits slave” myth. Effectively, a variety of authors such as John Norman wrote fiction novels like the Gor series, wherein the submissives were described as having no limits… and also no rights… in Read More »
I recently had an outside publisher ask me to write on the subject of “What do you wish you knew before becoming a Dominant, and why?” They also asked slave Daphne the same question as a Submissive.
Read More »When a newcomer enters the BDSM Community with sound knowledge they are setting off on a journey that is likely to be a profound adventure in their life, and hopefully an exciting one that they continue for many years. A set of basic, time-tested principles, a healthy set of personal Read More »
As this subject keeps coming up in letters I have received lately, I thought I would post this lesson here for anyone seeking a List Of Healthy Corrections that do NOT involve Corporal Punishment (aka CP). At The Crow Academy we do not use Corporal Punishment at all, instead saving Read More »
Sometime in the 1990’s a new, deceptive catch phrase started to circulate within the BDSM Community. At first glance, it appeared to be harmlessly aimed at empowering submissives throughout the BDSM Community, and even on second glance it seemed to anyone on the outside looking in to be reassuring everyone Read More »
I received a wonderful letter from an earnest new Dominant who learned about The Crow Academy through our YouTube Channel (Master Arcane) and who had a variety of great questions regarding Daily Maintenance for a Healthy D/s Relationship. He and his submissive wanted to learn how to create a positive Read More »
I am posting this lesson because I still occasionally get people asking either “Why is 50 Shades of Grey such a horrible model for BDSM?” or “Is Christian Grey a good Dom?” or “Should I do what they do in 50 Shades?” This lesson is my definitive answer regarding why Read More »
A highly devoted submissive in a healthy D/s Relationship asked one of the most fundamental questions about a subject that hardly ever gets shown in a proper light. That subject? Consensual Non-Consent (or commonly “CNC” for short). Vast are the number of misperceptions and misunderstandings about CNC, alongside occasional skepticism Read More »
A female submissive associate of mine wrote asking me if I could describe a few ways a submissive or slave can serve her Dominant. Rather than give literal examples as my reply, I ventured into describing the Essence of what it means to Serve, and extended that into an understanding Read More »
A very sincere submissive wrote to me recently about reconnecting with a former Dom with whom there had been a problematic parting of ways in the past. Amongst the issues that had come up previously were areas connected to the submissive’s PTSD and Face Slapping (a common kinky practice and Read More »