A Mind F*ck or Mind Games are a type of BDSM Play that relies mainly on playing with the Psychological headspace of the Submissive, and requires the playfully sadistic actions and words of the Dominant. The game is still well within all stated Limits, and fundamentally remains within the SSC Read More »
Many have heard the term, “Topping from the Bottom.” A variety of definitions have arisen in regards to this fairly straight-forward concept, but not all the definitions agree on When, Where, and How this term becomes an accurate description of what is occurring. Most people perceive this idea as completely Read More »
We all know that COMMUNICATION is critical for a healthy and flourishing D/s Relationship. Amongst other things, this includes an Absolute PACT of Honesty. To be clear, Honesty does NOT include things that are genuinely unknown or “in-flux” such as a Soft Limit where one is unsure where they lay Read More »
There seems to be some confusion regarding “What is Good Aftercare?” and how that relates to preventing “Sub-Drop.” As many know, Aftercare is an essential part of BDSM play, but what are the causes & conditions of Sub-Drop? In this lesson we clarify the differences, as well as how they Read More »
Origins & Realities To begin, lets discuss the origins of the modern (meaning last 50 years) “no limits slave” myth. Effectively, a variety of authors such as John Norman wrote fiction novels like the Gor series, wherein the submissives were described as having no limits… and also no rights… in Read More »
I recently had an outside publisher ask me to write on the subject of “What do you wish you knew before becoming a Dominant, and why?” They also asked slave Daphne the same question as a Submissive.
Read More »This system was taught to me many moons ago. It was far simpler back then, and so I greatly modified it (with permission) as part of The Crow Academy curriculum. It is only meant to be a set of “Guidelines,” and these are NOT hard and fast rules. Nonetheless, it Read More »
When a newcomer enters the BDSM Community with sound knowledge they are setting off on a journey that is likely to be a profound adventure in their life, and hopefully an exciting one that they continue for many years. A set of basic, time-tested principles, a healthy set of personal Read More »
We often hear about Kinky Celebrities who are “out” about their kinky practices. Some are quite bold about the fact, while others hint at their participation. The subject of “being outed” is still a hot-button topic for many people who rightly feel that, other than yourself, no other person should Read More »
I had an intriguing discussion recently with a highly educated woman who wanted my opinion on how sex roles and gender roles were better or worse off within the Global BDSM Scene. In my honest opinion, the BDSM Scene is a GREAT place to explore gender roles as well as Read More »
“BDSM Toy Shopping Tip: Buying A Flogger for BEGINNERS.” The advice I give below is based on decades of using and buying floggers as well as what I personally teach clients. At the end of the lesson you will find several links to help you buy a quality flogger if you are just starting to desire a good flogger in your BDSM Toy inventory.
Read More »A sorrowful submissive wrote to me to tell me that she had inadvertently been “outed” about her BDSM participation, and that certain people in her daily life had accidentally heard about her appreciation and enjoyment of BDSM. Unfortunately, these distinctly vanilla and misinformed people decided to take the incredibly backwards…
Read More »A highly devoted submissive in a healthy D/s Relationship asked one of the most fundamental questions about a subject that hardly ever gets shown in a proper light. That subject? Consensual Non-Consent (or commonly “CNC” for short). Vast are the number of misperceptions and misunderstandings about CNC, alongside occasional skepticism Read More »
At The Crow Academy we teach all levels of BDSM Play. From how to use the softest fur to the most intense cane, from floggers made of deer suede through thick buffalo hide, from a gentle spanking…. through knife play…. all the way to Fireplay, and pretty much everything in Read More »
Regarding the magnificent essay you are about to read from submissive “Penelope” below, I must say it’s a beautiful experience to watch when a submissive literally swoons when she is in Bondage. As Bondage is certainly one of my all-time favorite fetishes, seeing as how I have been tying the Read More »
I recently read a simple question put forth by a submissive who was ordered to play by an intoxicated Dom. This got me thinking about how this issue comes up every-so-often regarding How Much and When is it ok to mix intoxication with BDSM play? Many people who seriously appreciate Read More »
PART THREE of STEPPING BACK and DIVING DEEP (in 3 Parts). A new and very well-meaning submissive wrote to me to describe a series of bad experiences she had with a particular so-called Dom who showed tremendous disrespect when it came to the submissive’s limits as well as being HONEST Read More »
A polite and intelligent submissive who is just learning about her own submissive nature wrote to me recently and asked me to recommend some sources for her to learn more about TANTRA. My reply to her covered enough Tantric territory that it seemed appropriate to share with a wider audience. Read More »
Valentines Day is a day to Celebrate Romance no matter where it is found. For some, we will celebrate with one special person, for others we will celebrate with good friends, and for still others it can be a private and uplifting acknowledgment of the power of Romance. I smile Read More »
A submissive woman wrote me describing how she met a somewhat Dominant man who she was hoping to turn into a more strongly Dominant man. She had tried various attempts to elicit his style to measure up to and match what she feels she needs, yet was starting to come Read More »