In a previous lesson, “Dispelling Nonsense in the D/s Community,” I explained the problem known as “Dom-Disease.” In this lesson, I would like to share how I dealt with someone who had Dom-Disease as an example of how you can proceed if you ever encounter someone like this. If you Read More »
Building healthy self-esteem is a subject that I feel is incredibly important, and it often comes up with our female clients. While I wrote with women in mind, I genuinely believe people of any gender can learn something from these successes. It’s always a honor to contribute to Arcane Advice. Read More »
Many people want to find Meaning behind their Kink. Freud wrote volumes on the subject and never came up with a 100% well-rounded theory (but at least he got the ball rolling). I have personally attended gatherings of professionals where we analyzed a single set of fetish activities (specific kink Read More »
In the last year I have read about more and more individuals who are being pushed into Polyamory when it is not in their nature. Let me make it clear that there is nothing wrong with Polyamory when BOTH people in a couple enjoy the idea. I have been in Read More »
This system was taught to me many moons ago. It was far simpler back then, and so I greatly modified it (with permission) as part of The Crow Academy curriculum. It is only meant to be a set of “Guidelines,” and these are NOT hard and fast rules. Nonetheless, it Read More »
When a newcomer enters the BDSM Community with sound knowledge they are setting off on a journey that is likely to be a profound adventure in their life, and hopefully an exciting one that they continue for many years. A set of basic, time-tested principles, a healthy set of personal Read More »
This came across my desk the other day. I was immediately enthralled and impressed with the depth of research, of which 99% correlated with my own personal endeavors into the origins of BDSM (or at least early indications thereof). Understanding the History of BDSM is a wonderful path to comprehending Read More »
It is my pleasure to once again share the words and thoughts of my beloved slave Daphne, who grows every day in her ability to provide wonderful guidance for new submissives around the globe. As a professional BDSM and D/s Educator herself, slave Daphne encountered a number of occurrences where Read More »
We often hear about Kinky Celebrities who are “out” about their kinky practices. Some are quite bold about the fact, while others hint at their participation. The subject of “being outed” is still a hot-button topic for many people who rightly feel that, other than yourself, no other person should Read More »
The terms “Sacred Masculine and Sacred Feminine” refer to ancient concepts that have been reflected throughout the last 6000 years around the globe amongst philosophies that sought a balance of the sexes rather than perpetuate a patriarchy or matriarchy. This cross-cultural concept simply desires respect for each gender in equal Read More »
I had an intriguing discussion recently with a highly educated woman who wanted my opinion on how sex roles and gender roles were better or worse off within the Global BDSM Scene. In my honest opinion, the BDSM Scene is a GREAT place to explore gender roles as well as Read More »
I recently had an interesting discussion with a gentleman who felt that his practice of BDSM was somehow intertwined with his mainstream religion, and used his beliefs to conclude that Male Dominance was somehow “the right of every man” both in the Kink world as well as in the Vanilla Read More »
I received this from slave Daphne recently. It filled my heart completely. I found it to be so beautiful that I decided to share it with the world. (in slave Daphne’s own words, unedited) My collar, my most treasured gift. How to describe what you are and what you mean Read More »
A sorrowful submissive wrote to me to tell me that she had inadvertently been “outed” about her BDSM participation, and that certain people in her daily life had accidentally heard about her appreciation and enjoyment of BDSM. Unfortunately, these distinctly vanilla and misinformed people decided to take the incredibly backwards…
Read More »A female submissive associate of mine wrote asking me if I could describe a few ways a submissive or slave can serve her Dominant. Rather than give literal examples as my reply, I ventured into describing the Essence of what it means to Serve, and extended that into an understanding Read More »
An excited new submissive wrote to me after watching my YouTube videos (YouTube search terms “Master Arcane Crow”) with her Dom. She was very happy to find out that there were so many others out there who felt the same as she did, but wanted to know if my slave, Read More »
I received a most interesting letter from an officer of the law in a foreign country who had huge responsibilities around the clock including emergency response. In his private life he was an owned fetish-submissive to another officer, and he was asking me how to balance the two worlds – Read More »
An earnest Dominant wrote to me describing a Master / slave relationship which had failed. He wanted to know what he could look at to see what went wrong, and how he could discern if it was his own fault for not being able to lead properly. Equally he wondered Read More »
I was recently involved in a conversation further discussing whether a Dominant can be “made,” or whether they are they born into it. As you read in “Can a Dom be Made – Part 1” my perspective has evolved over the years into an understanding that YES, under the right Read More »
Oftentimes a Master must consider what is the next course of study for his slave. A Fine Master will seek to design the next course such that his slave will feel uplifted by his instructions, guided by his hand, and have a clearly perceivable pathway to improve herself in some Read More »