An earnest Dominant wrote to me describing a Master / slave relationship which had failed. He wanted to know what he could look at to see what went wrong, and how he could discern if it was his own fault for not being able to lead properly. Equally he wondered Read More »
A very sincere submissive wrote to me recently about reconnecting with a former Dom with whom there had been a problematic parting of ways in the past. Amongst the issues that had come up previously were areas connected to the submissive’s PTSD and Face Slapping (a common kinky practice and Read More »
I was recently involved in a conversation further discussing whether a Dominant can be “made,” or whether they are they born into it. As you read in “Can a Dom be Made – Part 1” my perspective has evolved over the years into an understanding that YES, under the right Read More »
At The Crow Academy we teach all levels of BDSM Play. From how to use the softest fur to the most intense cane, from floggers made of deer suede through thick buffalo hide, from a gentle spanking…. through knife play…. all the way to Fireplay, and pretty much everything in Read More »
Oftentimes a Master must consider what is the next course of study for his slave. A Fine Master will seek to design the next course such that his slave will feel uplifted by his instructions, guided by his hand, and have a clearly perceivable pathway to improve herself in some Read More »
I was participating in a group discussion recently and someone asked an age-old question about Doms and a person’s Dominant Nature. The question is always the same, effectively the Nature vs Nurture question regarding Domination. Can a Dom be “Made” or is it something intrinsic to an individual, a part Read More »
Someone was asking, “What defines a Master, and how is that different from a Domme?” My answer clarified that the opposite of Master is not Domme, and provides some insight into the powerful, nearly mathematical dynamic that defines a Master in the greatest sense of the word. I also clarified Read More »
I received an intriguing letter from a submissive whose Dominant felt they had “failed” when the sub asked the Dom if they could have Vanilla sex. Her intention was simple: Aside from all the wonderful BDSM sex and Bondage sex and D/s that occurred within these sexual experiences, she simply Read More »
PART 2: A further exploration of Misperceptions that can lead to the Submissive violating the Dominant’s Hard Limits. Part 1 can be found here: The Hard Limits Of The Dominant – Part 1 As we discuss Hard Limits and what would lead to any version of the “My Way or The Highway” line Read More »
Recently, I responded to a letter someone wrote trying to delineate when and / or if it is ever proper for a Dominant or Master to take on a “My Way or the Highway” attitude. Shouldn’t every situation be endlessly negotiable? The answer is a Hard NO, but it is important Read More »
Regarding the magnificent essay you are about to read from submissive “Penelope” below, I must say it’s a beautiful experience to watch when a submissive literally swoons when she is in Bondage. As Bondage is certainly one of my all-time favorite fetishes, seeing as how I have been tying the Read More »
A bright new submissive wrote me asking how could she tell if she was really submissive? The question seemed slightly moot at first, as the reason we were speaking was because I was a Dom and she was a submissive seeking knowledge. Nonetheless the question and our ensuing discussion quickly Read More »
I recently replied to a question about when and how it’s ok to re-write one’s own Rules as a Dom/me. As I sincerely believe that we as Dom/mes are in fact ARTISTS, my answer is whole-heartedly in support of treating one’s own Rules as an ever-growing expression of oneself, one’s needs, Read More »
I recently received a letter asking me my thoughts on what is needed to Get Physically Fit given that the individual clearly was ready to change their body. I summarized a few basic principles on fitness that have always worked for me, again and again, over the years of my Read More »
I recently responded to a question regarding the issue of Body Image in a slave. It was asked how do Dominants deal with the issue of a slave with an inaccurate Body Image, and what steps we as Doms would take to help her refine her Body Image into a Read More »
This 2-Part lesson came as a result of an online discussion on the very complicated topic of Self-Esteem, a factor which is critical within the ongoing training of a slave. The question is how does one approach the idea of cultivating healthy self-esteem in oneself (for subs) or in your Read More »
When a Dominant suddenly loses all interest in being Dominant, even when He is still completely committed to His partner, one of the possibilities is the phenomenon known as “Top Drop.” A well meaning submissive asked the question, “Do most Masters suffer TopDrop? If so, what are the signs and Read More »
I recently read a simple question put forth by a submissive who was ordered to play by an intoxicated Dom. This got me thinking about how this issue comes up every-so-often regarding How Much and When is it ok to mix intoxication with BDSM play? Many people who seriously appreciate Read More »
This is a question that I get every so often regarding the legality of a Master-slave, or D/s, Contract. For those of you who have never heard of such, the Master-slave Contract (aka Slave Contract, aka D/s Contract, etc) is an actual document created when a Dom and a sub Read More »
A sincere submissive who had explored High Protocol D/s for a few years and loved it but who was still relatively new to this part of herself wrote to me with an intriguing question. She had been in a 24/7 with a Master of notable quality but with whom she Read More »