Maintaining D/s Feelings at Your Job

Dec 18, 2016 Master Arcane 1

I received a most interesting letter from an officer of the law in a foreign country who had huge responsibilities around the clock including emergency response. In his private life he was an owned fetish-submissive to another officer, and he was asking me how to balance the two worlds – Read More »

Required Reading For My Slave, and Why

Jan 21, 2016 Master Arcane 3

Oftentimes a Master must consider what is the next course of study for his slave. A Fine Master will seek to design the next course such that his slave will feel uplifted by his instructions, guided by his hand, and have a clearly perceivable pathway to improve herself in some Read More »

The Difference Between a Dominant and a Master

Sep 23, 2015 Master Arcane 0

Someone was asking, “What defines a Master, and how is that different from a Domme?” My answer clarified that the opposite of Master is not Domme, and provides some insight into the powerful, nearly mathematical dynamic that defines a Master in the greatest sense of the word. I also clarified Read More »

The Hard Limits Of The Dominant – Part 2 of 2

Oct 15, 2014 Master Arcane 0

PART 2: A further exploration of Misperceptions that can lead to the Submissive violating the Dominant’s Hard Limits. Part 1 can be found here: The Hard Limits Of The Dominant – Part 1 As we discuss Hard Limits and what would lead to any version of the “My Way or The Highway” line Read More »

Are You Vanilla Or Genuinely Submissive?

Aug 12, 2013 Master Arcane 12

A bright new submissive wrote me asking how could she tell if she was really submissive?  The question seemed slightly moot at first, as the reason we were speaking was because I was a Dom and she was a submissive seeking knowledge.  Nonetheless the question and our ensuing discussion quickly Read More »

When It’s Time To Change The Rules…

May 10, 2013 Master Arcane 3

I recently replied to a question about when and how it’s ok to re-write one’s own Rules as a Dom/me. As I sincerely believe that we as Dom/mes are in fact ARTISTS, my answer is whole-heartedly in support of treating one’s own Rules as an ever-growing expression of oneself, one’s needs, Read More »

On Getting Fit & Creating The Body You Want

May 1, 2013 Master Arcane 8

I recently received a letter asking me my thoughts on what is needed to Get Physically Fit given that the individual clearly was ready to change their body. I summarized a few basic principles on fitness that have always worked for me, again and again, over the years of my Read More »

The Puzzle Of Self-Esteem In The Slave

Jan 24, 2013 Master Arcane 3

This lesson came as a result of an online discussion on the very complicated topic of Self-Esteem, a factor which is critical within the ongoing training of a slave. The question is how does one approach the idea of cultivating healthy self-esteem in oneself (for subs) or in your slave Read More »

TOP DROP – What It Is, How To Rectify It

Oct 17, 2012 Master Arcane 1

When a Dominant suddenly loses all interest in being Dominant, even when He is still completely committed to His partner, one of the possibilities is the phenomenon known as “Top Drop.” A well meaning submissive asked the question, “Do most Masters suffer TopDrop? If so, what are the signs and Read More »

Intoxication In Play – Is It Ever Ok?

May 2, 2012 Master Arcane 0

I recently read a simple question put forth by a submissive who was ordered to play by an intoxicated Dom. This got me thinking about how this issue comes up every-so-often regarding How Much and When is it ok to mix intoxication with BDSM play? Many people who seriously appreciate Read More »

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