A Mind F*ck or Mind Games are a type of BDSM Play that relies mainly on playing with the Psychological headspace of the Submissive, and requires the playfully sadistic actions and words of the Dominant. The game is still well within all stated Limits, and fundamentally remains within the SSC Read More »
When it comes to any sort of “Skill” involved in Domination & Submission, most people envision the Dominant as the one Requiring Skill, at the very least to be able to use BDSM Toys safely, to Guide, and to Teach the Submissive. But as we at The Crow Academy have Read More »
WHAT IS A “MUNCH?” A Munch is what you call a small, informal, social gathering of BDSM folk, usually at a public venue of a very ordinary nature, like the back room of a diner or a pub. Attendees are generally asked to NOT dress kinky nor bring toys, as Read More »
In our Facebook group, “BDSM Answers by The Crow Academy,” a fine gentleman asked “What is High Protocol Domination & Submission?” This was our reply, as The Crow Academy is very much a High-Protocol, High-Etiquette school of Romantic Domination & Submission. Enjoy. 🙂 (Interested in joining our Facebook Group? CLICK Read More »
In a previous lesson, “Dispelling Nonsense in the D/s Community,” I explained the problem known as “Dom-Disease.” In this lesson, I would like to share how I dealt with someone who had Dom-Disease as an example of how you can proceed if you ever encounter someone like this. If you Read More »
Yes, you read the title correctly and it says “Gifting,” not “Giving.” This is because Personal Sovereignty, the right to live your life as you want, and to do with your own body as you will, is everything in the modern world. For centuries, and even millennia, people have fought Read More »
Many have heard the term, “Topping from the Bottom.” A variety of definitions have arisen in regards to this fairly straight-forward concept, but not all the definitions agree on When, Where, and How this term becomes an accurate description of what is occurring. Most people perceive this idea as completely Read More »
A novice Dominant posted this question, which reflects what we at The Crow Academy see as a gross misunderstanding of the meaning of these terms on a very deep level. The question was posed as though there was some “magic indicator” that would let a new Dominant flawlessly know this Read More »
A new Dominant wrote to me asking, “How & Where Do I Start Creating Rules As A New Dominant?” At The Crow Academy we get this kind of question very often. Not surprising actually, as the world of BDSM is so vast and varied that for a newcomer it can Read More »
Today’s Lesson: Why straight-forward, down-to-earth D/s makes for the best foundation in all cases of the many D/s variants. We hear a lot about DD/lg, Pet Play, and Brat Play / Resistance Play relationships as some kind of Core Identity for that relationship, and yet these kinds of relationships near-constantly Read More »
Building healthy self-esteem is a subject that I feel is incredibly important, and it often comes up with our female clients. While I wrote with women in mind, I genuinely believe people of any gender can learn something from these successes. It’s always a honor to contribute to Arcane Advice. Read More »
Many people want to find Meaning behind their Kink. Freud wrote volumes on the subject and never came up with a 100% well-rounded theory (but at least he got the ball rolling). I have personally attended gatherings of professionals where we analyzed a single set of fetish activities (specific kink Read More »
Certainly “High Heel Training” is a very real element of many Styles of D/s. At The Crow Academy we have taught numerous submissives who ere unfamiliar with walking – and even dancing – in high heels how to do so with excellent results. Whether you are the Submissive who wants Read More »
We all know that COMMUNICATION is critical for a healthy and flourishing D/s Relationship. Amongst other things, this includes an Absolute PACT of Honesty. To be clear, Honesty does NOT include things that are genuinely unknown or “in-flux” such as a Soft Limit where one is unsure where they lay Read More »
There seems to be some confusion regarding “What is Good Aftercare?” and how that relates to preventing “Sub-Drop.” As many know, Aftercare is an essential part of BDSM play, but what are the causes & conditions of Sub-Drop? In this lesson we clarify the differences, as well as how they Read More »
Origins & Realities To begin, lets discuss the origins of the modern (meaning last 50 years) “no limits slave” myth. Effectively, a variety of authors such as John Norman wrote fiction novels like the Gor series, wherein the submissives were described as having no limits… and also no rights… in Read More »
In the last year I have read about more and more individuals who are being pushed into Polyamory when it is not in their nature. Let me make it clear that there is nothing wrong with Polyamory when BOTH people in a couple enjoy the idea. I have been in Read More »
I recently had an outside publisher ask me to write on the subject of “What do you wish you knew before becoming a Dominant, and why?” They also asked slave Daphne the same question as a Submissive.
Read More »This system was taught to me many moons ago. It was far simpler back then, and so I greatly modified it (with permission) as part of The Crow Academy curriculum. It is only meant to be a set of “Guidelines,” and these are NOT hard and fast rules. Nonetheless, it Read More »
When a newcomer enters the BDSM Community with sound knowledge they are setting off on a journey that is likely to be a profound adventure in their life, and hopefully an exciting one that they continue for many years. A set of basic, time-tested principles, a healthy set of personal Read More »