I recently had an interesting discussion with a gentleman who felt that his practice of BDSM was somehow intertwined with his mainstream religion, and used his beliefs to conclude that Male Dominance was somehow “the right of every man” both in the Kink world as well as in the Vanilla Read More »
Sometime in the 1990’s a new, deceptive catch phrase started to circulate within the BDSM Community. At first glance, it appeared to be harmlessly aimed at empowering submissives throughout the BDSM Community, and even on second glance it seemed to anyone on the outside looking in to be reassuring everyone Read More »
I received a wonderful letter from an earnest new Dominant who learned about The Crow Academy through our YouTube Channel (Master Arcane) and who had a variety of great questions regarding Daily Maintenance for a Healthy D/s Relationship. He and his submissive wanted to learn how to create a positive Read More »
An earnest Dominant wrote to me describing a Master / slave relationship which had failed. He wanted to know what he could look at to see what went wrong, and how he could discern if it was his own fault for not being able to lead properly. Equally he wondered Read More »
A very sincere submissive wrote to me recently about reconnecting with a former Dom with whom there had been a problematic parting of ways in the past. Amongst the issues that had come up previously were areas connected to the submissive’s PTSD and Face Slapping (a common kinky practice and Read More »
I was recently involved in a conversation further discussing whether a Dominant can be “made,” or whether they are they born into it. As you read in “Can a Dom be Made – Part 1” my perspective has evolved over the years into an understanding that YES, under the right Read More »
I was participating in a group discussion recently and someone asked an age-old question about Doms and a person’s Dominant Nature. The question is always the same, effectively the Nature vs Nurture question regarding Domination. Can a Dom be “Made” or is it something intrinsic to an individual, a part Read More »
Someone was asking, “What defines a Master, and how is that different from a Domme?” My answer clarified that the opposite of Master is not Domme, and provides some insight into the powerful, nearly mathematical dynamic that defines a Master in the greatest sense of the word. I also clarified Read More »
I received an intriguing letter from a submissive whose Dominant felt they had “failed” when the sub asked the Dom if they could have Vanilla sex. Her intention was simple: Aside from all the wonderful BDSM sex and Bondage sex and D/s that occurred within these sexual experiences, she simply Read More »
PART 2: A further exploration of Misperceptions that can lead to the Submissive violating the Dominant’s Hard Limits. Part 1 can be found here: The Hard Limits Of The Dominant – Part 1 As we discuss Hard Limits and what would lead to any version of the “My Way or The Highway” line Read More »
Recently, I responded to a letter someone wrote trying to delineate when and / or if it is ever proper for a Dominant or Master to take on a “My Way or the Highway” attitude. Shouldn’t every situation be endlessly negotiable? The answer is a Hard NO, but it is important Read More »
I recently replied to a question about when and how it’s ok to re-write one’s own Rules as a Dom/me. As I sincerely believe that we as Dom/mes are in fact ARTISTS, my answer is whole-heartedly in support of treating one’s own Rules as an ever-growing expression of oneself, one’s needs, Read More »
I recently responded to a question regarding the issue of Body Image in a slave. It was asked how do Dominants deal with the issue of a slave with an inaccurate Body Image, and what steps we as Doms would take to help her refine her Body Image into a Read More »
When a Dominant suddenly loses all interest in being Dominant, even when He is still completely committed to His partner, one of the possibilities is the phenomenon known as “Top Drop.” A well meaning submissive asked the question, “Do most Masters suffer TopDrop? If so, what are the signs and Read More »
I recently read a simple question put forth by a submissive who was ordered to play by an intoxicated Dom. This got me thinking about how this issue comes up every-so-often regarding How Much and When is it ok to mix intoxication with BDSM play? Many people who seriously appreciate Read More »
An excellent Dom buddy of mine wrote me to ask what I thought were the 10 Essential Qualities of a Fine Dom. In my estimation, these are Ten Essential Traits that any existing or prospective Dom needs to appreciate. These do not necessarily have to be fully developed qualities within Read More »
There seems to be some deliberation on the virtue of training an Experienced submissive versus a Complete Newbie submissive. In my opinion there is virtue in both scenarios and in this lesson I explain why. Following the main lesson, I have posted an excerpt from my book, “Igniting The Fire: Read More »
Let me start by saying that I pushed this question to the head of the list because I have been suddenly inundated in the last few weeks by various submissives asking this exact same question. It’s as though astrologically speaking some planetary alignment has given rise to this question in Read More »
Valentines Day is a day to Celebrate Romance no matter where it is found. For some, we will celebrate with one special person, for others we will celebrate with good friends, and for still others it can be a private and uplifting acknowledgment of the power of Romance. I smile Read More »
A quality Domina wrote me asking a few questions regarding training a well-meaning slave when the fetishes of the two involved do not quite match up. She was equally concerned over what appeared to be a breach in basic etiquette when a road block was reached with a different submissive. Read More »