The Difference Between a Dominant and a Master

Sep 23, 2015 Master Arcane 0

Someone was asking, “What defines a Master, and how is that different from a Domme?” My answer clarified that the opposite of Master is not Domme, and provides some insight into the powerful, nearly mathematical dynamic that defines a Master in the greatest sense of the word. I also clarified Read More »

The Hard Limits Of The Dominant – Part 2 of 2

Oct 15, 2014 Master Arcane 0

PART 2: A further exploration of Misperceptions that can lead to the Submissive violating the Dominant’s Hard Limits. Part 1 can be found here: The Hard Limits Of The Dominant – Part 1 As we discuss Hard Limits and what would lead to any version of the “My Way or The Highway” line Read More »

When It’s Time To Change The Rules…

May 10, 2013 Master Arcane 3

I recently replied to a question about when and how it’s ok to re-write one’s own Rules as a Dom/me. As I sincerely believe that we as Dom/mes are in fact ARTISTS, my answer is whole-heartedly in support of treating one’s own Rules as an ever-growing expression of oneself, one’s needs, Read More »

TOP DROP – What It Is, How To Rectify It

Oct 17, 2012 Master Arcane 1

When a Dominant suddenly loses all interest in being Dominant, even when He is still completely committed to His partner, one of the possibilities is the phenomenon known as “Top Drop.” A well meaning submissive asked the question, “Do most Masters suffer TopDrop? If so, what are the signs and Read More »

Intoxication In Play – Is It Ever Ok?

May 2, 2012 Master Arcane 0

I recently read a simple question put forth by a submissive who was ordered to play by an intoxicated Dom. This got me thinking about how this issue comes up every-so-often regarding How Much and When is it ok to mix intoxication with BDSM play? Many people who seriously appreciate Read More »

10 Key Qualities for an Exceptional Dominant

Feb 6, 2009 Master Arcane 14

An excellent Dom buddy of mine wrote me to ask what I thought were the 10 Essential Qualities of a Fine Dom.  In my estimation, these are Ten Essential Traits that any existing or prospective Dom needs to appreciate. These do not necessarily have to be fully developed qualities within Read More »

Credentials, or How To Screen a Dom?

Feb 26, 2008 Master Arcane 2

Let me start by saying that I pushed this question to the head of the list because I have been suddenly inundated in the last few weeks by various submissives asking this exact same question. It’s as though astrologically speaking some planetary alignment has given rise to this question in Read More »

When Fetishes Don’t Quite Match…

Nov 15, 2007 Master Arcane 1

A quality Domina wrote me asking a few questions regarding training a well-meaning slave when the fetishes of the two involved do not quite match up. She was equally concerned over what appeared to be a breach in basic etiquette when a road block was reached with a different submissive. Read More »

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