A female submissive associate of mine wrote asking me if I could describe a few ways a submissive or slave can serve her Dominant. Rather than give literal examples as my reply, I ventured into describing the Essence of what it means to Serve, and extended that into an understanding Read More »
An excited new submissive wrote to me after watching my YouTube videos (YouTube search terms “Master Arcane Crow”) with her Dom. She was very happy to find out that there were so many others out there who felt the same as she did, but wanted to know if my slave, Read More »
I received a most interesting letter from an officer of the law in a foreign country who had huge responsibilities around the clock including emergency response. In his private life he was an owned fetish-submissive to another officer, and he was asking me how to balance the two worlds – Read More »
An earnest Dominant wrote to me describing a Master / slave relationship which had failed. He wanted to know what he could look at to see what went wrong, and how he could discern if it was his own fault for not being able to lead properly. Equally he wondered Read More »
A very sincere submissive wrote to me recently about reconnecting with a former Dom with whom there had been a problematic parting of ways in the past. Amongst the issues that had come up previously were areas connected to the submissive’s PTSD and Face Slapping (a common kinky practice and Read More »
Oftentimes a Master must consider what is the next course of study for his slave. A Fine Master will seek to design the next course such that his slave will feel uplifted by his instructions, guided by his hand, and have a clearly perceivable pathway to improve herself in some Read More »
I received an intriguing letter from a submissive whose Dominant felt they had “failed” when the sub asked the Dom if they could have Vanilla sex. Her intention was simple: Aside from all the wonderful BDSM sex and Bondage sex and D/s that occurred within these sexual experiences, she simply Read More »
When a Dominant suddenly loses all interest in being Dominant, even when He is still completely committed to His partner, one of the possibilities is the phenomenon known as “Top Drop.” A well meaning submissive asked the question, “Do most Masters suffer TopDrop? If so, what are the signs and Read More »
This is a question that I get every so often regarding the legality of a Master-slave, or D/s, Contract. For those of you who have never heard of such, the Master-slave Contract (aka Slave Contract, aka D/s Contract, etc) is an actual document created when a Dom and a sub Read More »
A submissive was asking me to help her understand the meaning of the term “Alpha slave.” Her confusion stemmed from the misperception that “Alpha” automatically denotes an entire hierarchy below the Alpha position, such as in Huxley’s ‘Alpha-Beta-Gamma-Delta-Epsilon’ (Brave New World), and she erroneously concluded that being Alpha automatically meant Read More »
This ARCANE ADVICE may seem slightly off-topic, however it’s time someone addressed a Single MASSIVE MISCONCEPTION regarding this question which gets asked in almost every Alternative Sexuality genre, including the BDSM / Fetish Scene. The answer will hopefully make you THINK, and it is interesting to note that we here Read More »
A new submissive inquired recently as to how well she should be going along with her Master’s plans and designs when they seemed at times to be at odds with her normal way of doing things. It appeared to me that she had not yet clarified with her Master where Read More »
A polite and intelligent submissive who is just learning about her own submissive nature wrote to me recently and asked me to recommend some sources for her to learn more about TANTRA. My reply to her covered enough Tantric territory that it seemed appropriate to share with a wider audience. Read More »
A fetish filmmaker responded to the previous ARCANE ADVICE lesson “Regaining Submissive Bliss (Part 1)” with a series of strong points that I felt needed a great deal of discussion, as several of these point ran parallel to Vanilla misperceptions of the past which have led to a variety of Read More »
An excellent Dom buddy of mine wrote me to ask what I thought were the 10 Essential Qualities of a Fine Dom. In my estimation, these are Ten Essential Traits that any existing or prospective Dom needs to appreciate. These do not necessarily have to be fully developed qualities within Read More »
A woman wrote to me with a unique problem which seemed to revolve around a confusion between the appropriate behaviors of a BDSM party vs a Swinger party. From the description of her problem, the biggest issue appeared to be that she wanted to bring a high level of polyamory, Read More »
A submissive new to the idea of Living The BDSM D/s Lifestyle wrote to me asking how one “integrates” the various profound elements of Living The Dominant-Submissive Lifestyle alongside the ordinary demands of society, work and otherwise daily life. I describe what it is like by drawing parallels to living Read More »
Let me start by saying that I pushed this question to the head of the list because I have been suddenly inundated in the last few weeks by various submissives asking this exact same question. It’s as though astrologically speaking some planetary alignment has given rise to this question in Read More »
Valentines Day is a day to Celebrate Romance no matter where it is found. For some, we will celebrate with one special person, for others we will celebrate with good friends, and for still others it can be a private and uplifting acknowledgment of the power of Romance. I smile Read More »
A gentleman wrote to me asking all about the meaning and significance of the Slave Collar. He felt that the giving of the slave collar was a notable, even sacred event yet he equally felt that he was hearing and seeing collars being given out lightly all around him. My Read More »