This ARCANE ADVICE may seem slightly off-topic, however it’s time someone addressed a Single MASSIVE MISCONCEPTION regarding this question which gets asked in almost every Alternative Sexuality genre, including the BDSM / Fetish Scene. The answer will hopefully make you THINK, and it is interesting to note that we here Read More »
A new submissive inquired recently as to how well she should be going along with her Master’s plans and designs when they seemed at times to be at odds with her normal way of doing things. It appeared to me that she had not yet clarified with her Master where Read More »
PART THREE of STEPPING BACK and DIVING DEEP (in 3 Parts). A new and very well-meaning submissive wrote to me to describe a series of bad experiences she had with a particular so-called Dom who showed tremendous disrespect when it came to the submissive’s limits as well as being HONEST Read More »
PART TWO of STEPPING BACK and DIVING DEEP (in 3 Parts). A new and very well-meaning submissive wrote to me to describe a series of bad experiences she had with a particular so-called Dom who showed tremendous disrespect when it came to the submissive’s limits as well as being HONEST Read More »
PART ONE of STEPPING BACK and DIVING DEEP (in 3 Parts). A new and very well-meaning submissive wrote to me to describe a series of bad experiences she had with a particular so-called Dom who showed tremendous disrespect when it came to the submissive’s limits as well as being HONEST Read More »
A polite and intelligent submissive who is just learning about her own submissive nature wrote to me recently and asked me to recommend some sources for her to learn more about TANTRA. My reply to her covered enough Tantric territory that it seemed appropriate to share with a wider audience. Read More »
A fetish filmmaker responded to the previous ARCANE ADVICE lesson “Regaining Submissive Bliss (Part 1)” with a series of strong points that I felt needed a great deal of discussion, as several of these point ran parallel to Vanilla misperceptions of the past which have led to a variety of Read More »
An excellent Dom buddy of mine wrote me to ask what I thought were the 10 Essential Qualities of a Fine Dom. In my estimation, these are Ten Essential Traits that any existing or prospective Dom needs to appreciate. These do not necessarily have to be fully developed qualities within Read More »
A woman wrote to me with a unique problem which seemed to revolve around a confusion between the appropriate behaviors of a BDSM party vs a Swinger party. From the description of her problem, the biggest issue appeared to be that she wanted to bring a high level of polyamory, Read More »
There seems to be some deliberation on the virtue of training an Experienced submissive versus a Complete Newbie submissive. In my opinion there is virtue in both scenarios and in this lesson I explain why. Following the main lesson, I have posted an excerpt from my book, “Igniting The Fire: Read More »
A submissive new to the idea of Living The BDSM D/s Lifestyle wrote to me asking how one “integrates” the various profound elements of Living The Dominant-Submissive Lifestyle alongside the ordinary demands of society, work and otherwise daily life. I describe what it is like by drawing parallels to living Read More »
A passionate submissive wrote me both hopeful and hesitant about pursuing the extreme surrender she hoped to experience within formal D/s and Submission. Her concerns stemmed from observations regarding styles of D/s that one might consider more extreme, and not understanding that different Dominants have different Stylistic Choices. She was Read More »
Let me start by saying that I pushed this question to the head of the list because I have been suddenly inundated in the last few weeks by various submissives asking this exact same question. It’s as though astrologically speaking some planetary alignment has given rise to this question in Read More »
Valentines Day is a day to Celebrate Romance no matter where it is found. For some, we will celebrate with one special person, for others we will celebrate with good friends, and for still others it can be a private and uplifting acknowledgment of the power of Romance. I smile Read More »
A gentleman wrote to me asking all about the meaning and significance of the Slave Collar. He felt that the giving of the slave collar was a notable, even sacred event yet he equally felt that he was hearing and seeing collars being given out lightly all around him. My Read More »
A submissive woman wrote me describing how she met a somewhat Dominant man who she was hoping to turn into a more strongly Dominant man. She had tried various attempts to elicit his style to measure up to and match what she feels she needs, yet was starting to come Read More »
A friend of mine, one of the most sincere female slaves I know, asked me about my take on pain, humiliation and edge play. She wanted to know more about these areas, and also know if a submissive can be “broken into” these levels of play. Enjoy. My take on Read More »
A collared slave wrote me telling me she was starting to question her role of slave and being in a D/s relationship, and that she was finding herself in a deep depression. She opened up that she was actually beginning to behave in unethical ways of which she knew for Read More »
A quality Domina wrote me asking a few questions regarding training a well-meaning slave when the fetishes of the two involved do not quite match up. She was equally concerned over what appeared to be a breach in basic etiquette when a road block was reached with a different submissive. Read More »
A devoted submissive wrote to me asking about a kind of burn-out that any submissive can experience when they feel like they just cannot do enough for their Dominant. My answer was far less straight-forward than you might expect since burn-out like this can come from any number of areas Read More »